Memorable Moment #3: Insanity

Memorable Moment #3 leading up to week 29 1/2 (see previous posts) is more of a culmination of a lot of smaller moments. As you may have heard, pregnancy will mess with your wife. While my wife has been wonderful throughout pregnancy, even the best woman is only human.

Every once in a while, the effects of pregnancy will test even the most patient man's nerves. In the wake of one such encounter, I had the following text conversation with a friend of mine who recently became a father. I think it about sums it up . . .


Me: Okay, so speaking as someone who has been through this Dad thing, how long can I expect my wife to be insane?
My friend: I'll let you know when it stops...

Memorable Moment #1: I'm Pregnant

As I mentioned in my first post, my wife is currently at 29 1/2 weeks. I don't want to try to go back into the pregnancy too much, as at this stage everything is about looking forward to the babies, but there are three moments that merit a post. The first is finding out.

We had been trying passively for 2 or 3 months. I found trying to be somewhat weird and even a little difficult. I mean, not to get too personal or anything, but adding a goal to intimacy can make it a bit -- unnerving. Or is it just me?

Now, I know that getting pregnant can take months, or even years, and that many people would be jealous of success in 2-3 months. That said, it still seemed like a long time. Am I the only one that put it all on me in my head? What am I doing wrong? What is wrong with me?Anyway, a few weeks, my wife -- out of nowhere -- walked into our family room, sat on my lap, and told me that my boys could in fact swim.

How did you feel when you found out that your wife was actually pregnant? I'm curious to hear, as I had a flood of things run through my head. Things like, "Hey, I'm going to be a dad!" "Oh my, you mean I'm actually going to be a dad?" "Are we really having a baby in this economy?" "I hope these kids get their height from my in-laws." Thoughts like these ran through my head in no particular order.

Then there was a part of me that felt guilty. I mean, I was happy, but shouldn't I be happier? Shouldn't I feel more? Maybe it is true what they say, that the babies don't get real for the father until a little later in the pregnancy, or even until birth. Now of course, at this point, we did not know it was twins. I just knew that I was going to be completely responsible for another human being. It's a concept I am still getting used to.

I knew one thing I needed to do, though. And a few days later, I took care of that, old school style:

Go Caps!

What did you think about?

Welcome to The Blog!

Welcome, gentlemen. If you have found this small corner of the Interwebs through your Googles or Yahoos, then it is pretty likely that you are an expectant or recent father -- and quite possibly a father of twins. Congrats.

As I write this first entry, my wife is 29 1/2 weeks pregnant, so it is getting pretty close. We are expecting two boys and are not yet certain whether they are identical or fraternal. I have spent my copious free time over the last 7 months or so poking around books and the Internet looking for information. Although there is more out there about fatherhood than there used to be, there is still a lot less than there is about motherhood, and I have not found much about being a dad of twins. Maybe something on this blog may end helping someone -- or maybe it will be therapeutic for me. If we're really lucky, enough of us will find it that it will become a place to fraternize, share information, and blow off steam. Whether you are a father or an expectant father, and particularly if you have or are expecting twins, please feel free to comment early and often.

As I did not get the idea for this blog until recently, I have missed 29 1/2 weeks of potential posts about the pregnancy. I guess there are three moments that really stand out. I'll touch on them briefly in the next three posts. After that, we shall only look forward.

Welcome, boys. Comment away.